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Resenting a Parent: August 29th 2002
........When you do not send a greetings card to your parents on their wedding anniversary you add to the guilt which motivates your present lifestyle to keep you in a state of denial. When you receive a greeting card after the birth of your baby from your parents explaining its meaning in regard to who she is named after and you cannot and do not wish to read it, this behavior is a perfect example of denial and only living in " what makes me feel OK". There is an ignorance in all of this, and although one might be supposedly successful in making a living, this lifestyle is totally unsuccessful when it comes to reality and spirituality. It actually is a psychoses and involves all of the emotions and needs to believe "it" is the way to go.
........The opportunity to emotionally and spiritually grow and leave childhood behind is a choice we all can make and must make to reach our original purpose, otherwise we all remain in the hands of "it". To explain "it" is throughout my writings and simply is as follows.
We all, without exception, become corrupted during our childhood development. No parent is yet to provide the correct and healthy emotional and spiritual base for the child until that parent herself or himself has come to a realization of absolute truth which only originates from Creator. The awakening and enlightenment experience is always painful and for this reason very few human beings reach the higher consciousness necessary to stay within a mind set of spirituality and oneness with Creator.
........Emotions consisting of resentment - the curse; anger - the judgmental rebellion; jealousy - the overbearing egotistical feeling; sexual feelings - the original separation from Creator; addictions - the ties to "it" because of all the emotional needs leave us all in a state of denial and "spin" where we must always flip our thought process to feel we are OK the way we are rather than facing the painful truth to possibly go through "change".
........Change can only come through pain and when we all avoid this pain the change cannot take place. The molested child stays molested because the pain is so great and deep and therefore this child remains helplessly in the hands of "it" to continue a pattern of life in total misery and denial. This person goes to materialism and if this is not there drugs because there is never enough to fulfill their lives. This can be described as possessed by evil. The error one makes is to always permit one's ego ( playing God to feel that life the way it is is fine although in the hands of "it" ) to dominate the mind through all of the feelings constantly coming from childhood so many years back. If molested, this is very serious and most likely incurable.
........The biggest error is to blame parents and this is so easy to do. Guilt always play its toll upon the emotional human entitity and the distorted mind which needs to always try to spin its way out of "it". Blame and be angry is the name of the game. The cure is forgiveness and personal responsibility. The dysfunctional family cycle always continues on into a hellish lifestyle when the change is not accomplished. Materialism is a serious hindrance to change. The more money you make permits the addiction to set in more and more and the opportunity to change and be self-corrected falls by the wayside. What one needs to be for true happiness is then unavailable because layers and layers of denial begin to pile up and the lifestyle of this corrupted mind set is only survival through feelings of guilt. Life then is nothing but to stay guilty to be motivated to do anything and this causes tiredness, wear and tear and a need to make excuses all the time. The rational mind no longer exists and there is a turmoil of confusion when it comes to the thought process and decision making. The "know it all" grows as this individual loses any spirituality or emotional stability. It also provides the base for schizophrenia because what we see here is a human entity which changes it moods and positions constantly never knowing who and what it is at any given moment but struggling within itself with the guilt and anger. Until this is expressed properly and sincerely to the source of the problem and to Creator asking for forgiveness, with the full acceptance of no longer taking from life but to give to life, one remains loyal to "it" which is the curse. Look to where the allegiance is at all times!
........To hide behind the ego to try to feel good and to have everyone stroke you to make you be someone is denial. This dysfunctional lifestyle then makes you wish to control and manipulate others. To those who really know the truth, which is really not from them but through them via Creation, one might say,"You think you are God". This is because the ego is the competitor of absolute truth and life is nothing but competition when it comes to the corrupted mind. However, all relationships are basically sick in a dysfunctional family. One cannot have a true loving relationship with anyone here. It is using and abusing all the time where of course there is no true love but the feelings ego needs to believe it is OK. In a marriage the wife and husband use and abuse each other and learn to do things to manipulate and control each other. For example, the wife can have children in order to keep the husband in a state of mind where he is unable to say what is on his mind. During this example, if the the husband does not correct the wife the wife does not have any respect for him because she needs correction and is always looking for it but only then is she to lay her sickness upon the children. This is the reason that a recent woman killed her five children with a husband who was unable to fix "it". It is just a matter of time in a dysfunctional family and of course extreme example are the best when we must learn from that experience.
........People do not learn because they live in denial which is the comfort zone they have created around them to always feel OK rather than do that which is correct. To them there is no absolute correctness but the gray areas they created to avoid absolute truth. This is accomplished by earning more and more money where ever possible, living off of materialism, and constantly being angry and judging others especially parents to blame for all of this as the big excuse. Life then becomes nothing but an addiction to the feeling gotten out of "it". The liberal mind lives this way always to spin its way out in order to feel that it is right in its own denial of absolute truth. Bill O'Reilly is a good example of demonstrating to the public what "spin" is all about. And you can see this in his TV show on Fox News Channel that he has become somewhat angry at those who live through "it" and he attacks those who live by way of "it". The possessed mind is basically evil and Bill O'Reilly has reached a point in his life to be able to see "it".
........A note here is that without perception, common sense, insight, and intuition all original gifts from Creator, the ability to envision the truth and observe "it" is unavailable. Guilt then dominates the mind and actually becomes the motivating factor rather than the inner sense to do the correct thing which now has become invisible and disconnected from conscience. Also instinct to most people is their way of life which is a destructive misconception because instinct is carnal and what should be the means for direction is not instinct but intuition something originally given to all of us until corrupted. Intuition is a sense to know what is correct without even thinking about it. The irrational mind which is boggled with layers of trauma and anger is unable to use these original now suppressed gifts from Creator.
........Now getting back to "it". Possibly you have discovered that "it" is evil. "It" needs energy to survive and this is provided for through emotions such as resentment, anger and jealousy. These emotions create an altered state of mind which must control and manipulate others and from all of this there is no earned respect. However, one must learn and understand that all the corruption in us came from parents who did not know any better at that time and hopefully fulfilled their life later through awakening experience such as fighting with authority, going to jail, court cases and hardships such as doing without money. One must say they are lucky when they have parents who have gone through all of this and to have the absolute truth in their midst. The awakening is then at one's fingertips but sometimes avoided as denial stands firm.
........Grandfather Bill is a good example of a man who avoided his family and now suffers because he has been given time to suffer. Creator makes those suffer in order to hopefully make the change needed. With guilt the main motivating factor in a person's life, the inevitable comes around sooner or later because conscience at the end rules. This cannot be eliminated without experiencing sincere forgiveness and removing blame, and then to continue on in life being responsible for every feeling and thought in the mind and at the same time dropping resentment, anger and jealousy.
........I had recommended many months ago to go to group therapy and of course you have avoided doing this. Behavior patterns which are dysfunctional need to be corrected before the age of fourty. Once you go past correction, other physical disorder set in. These can be ulcers, cancer, heart attacks, diabetes and even serious bacterial diseases. The reason is that the physical body deteriorates through the emotional lifestyle especially with so much suppressed anger and resentment. Chemistry changes take place in the physical body and cause the deterioration. I used to be a pharmacist and had many years of experience in the medical field to see this all, which is inevitable. Being overweight adds to the problem and to have worked out with weights adds to the overweight. Stomach pains are a symptom but a good message hopefully to learn from. We must realize that there is a time in our lives when change can be made and a time in our lives when it is just too late.
........The key now is right here. It might take a lot of crying and pain to realize that one has spent so many years blaming and hating, and avoiding correction known as discipline. The spoiled child has this serious problem because discipline is not the order of the day. Actually it should be selfdiscipline which is learned through seeing what is the correct thing to do and eliminating how one always feels at the moment to make that decision or choice. When the child leaves the home and creates its own comfort zone, it know longer can experience what it needs to be corrected. This takes place when one finds friends to stroke each other, marry a female who keeps the environment of guilt the same where the interactions remain sick and unloving, and children are born to make them just the same to become escapegoats for the parental inadequacies. And on and on it goes.
........There is no cure for this immature behavior pattern unless some good therapy takes place. Behavior can be corrected through group therapy, if that person has a desire to be corrected and hopefully the ego does not get in the way. Those who absolutely do not wish to try this kind of therapy must go on to experience much pain because it is the nature of conscience that is the true order of all human beings (entities) otherwise it is the nature of "it' which possesses the mind and sooner or later takes its toll on the physical body and provideds for a life of hell.
Dr.Roy Foster www.MentalGrowth.com

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