A Daughter's Love

A Daughters Love
Kelly Backhouse Her hair was up in a ponytail
Her favorite dress tied with a bow.
Today was Daddy's Day at school,
And she couldn't wait to go. But her mommy tried to tell her,
That she probably should stay home.
Why the kids might not understand,
If she went to school alone. But she was not afraid;
She knew just what to say.
What to tell her classmates
Of why he wasn't there today. But still her mother worried,
For her to face this day alone.
And that was why once again,
She tried to keep her daughter home. But the little girl went to school,
Eager to tell them all.
About a dad she never sees
A dad who never calls. There were daddies along the wall in back,
For everyone to meet.
Children squirming impatiently,
Anxious in their seats. One by one the teacher called,
A student from the class.
To introduce their daddy,
As seconds slowly passed. At last the teacher called her name,
Every child turned to stare.
Each of them was searching,
For a man who wasn't there. "Where's her daddy at?"
She heard a boy call out.
"She probably doesn't have one,"
Another student dared to shout. And from somewhere near the back,
She heard a daddy say,
"Looks like another deadbeat dad,
Too busy to waste his day." The words did not offend her,
As she smiled up at her Mom.
And looked back at her teacher,
Who told her to go on. And with hands behind her back,
Slowly she began to speak.
And out from the mouth of a child,
Came words incredibly unique. "My Daddy couldn't be here,
Because he lives so far away.
But I know he wishes he could be,
Since this is such a special day. And though you cannot meet him,
I wanted you to know.
All about my daddy,
And how much he loves me so. He loved to tell me stories
He taught me to ride my bike.
He surprised me with pink roses,
And taught me to fly a kite. We used to share fudge sundaes,
And ice cream in a cone.
And though you cannot see him,
I'm not standing here alone. "Cause my daddy's always with me,
Even though we are apart
I know because he told me,
He'll forever be in my heart" With that, her little hand reached up,
And lay across her chest.
Feeling her own heartbeat,
Beneath her favorite dress. And from somewhere in the crowd of dads,
Her mother stood in tears.
Proudly watching her daughter,
Who was wise beyond her years. For she stood up for the love
Of a man not in her life.
Doing what was best for her,
Doing what was right. And when she dropped her hand back down,
Staring straight into the crowd.
She finished with a voice so soft,
But its message clear and loud. "I love my daddy very much,
He's my shining star.
And if he could, he'd be here,
But heaven's just too far. You see he was a fireman
And died just this past year
When airplanes hit the towers
And taught Americans to fear. But sometimes when I close my eyes,
It's like he never went away."
And then she closed her eyes,
And saw him there that day. And to her mother's amazement,
She witnessed with surprise.
A room full of daddies and children,
All starting to close their eyes. Who knows what they saw before them,
Who knows what they felt inside.
Perhaps for merely a second,
They saw him at her side. "I know you're with me Daddy,"
To the silence she called out.
And what happened next made believers,
Of those once filled with doubt. Not one in that room could explain it,
For each of their eyes had been closed.
But there on the desk beside her,
Was a fragrant long-stemmed pink rose. And a child was blessed, if only for a moment,
By the love of her shining bright star.
And given the gift of believing,
That heaven is never too far They say it takes a minute to find a special person,
an hour to appreciate them, a day to love them,
but then an entire life to forget them. Send this phrase to the people you'll never forget
If you don't send it to anyone, it means you're in a hurry and
that you've forgotten your friends. Take the time...to live and love. Until eternity. God bless.

Destructive Gambling

A Gambling Society is a Crumbling Society

........Gambling is most likely at the top of the list for the worst activities that a society can have to self-destruct. When you can permit lotteries to take away hard earned money from people who cannot afford even to throw away a dollar, you will always make the society self-destruct. This author believes that even drugs do not reach such a highly destructive habit.

........It humiliates people and takes them away from all true values when it comes to the meaning of a good days work and the true sincerity to do a good job for the employer. It keeps the mind focused away from the moment and takes on an illusionary altered state of mind, which is the fundamental description of sin. We already can see that the job in government leads to mediocrity because government work does not bring the best out of the worker where obviously there is no incentive to work harder or look for any improvement but just to hang in there for the retirement which in many cases is truly underserving, and even a reason for inflation. As long as gambling rules the minds of people such as a big pot of 300 million dollars it leads to insanity as people begin to only think of "What if they did win this money" and "What would they do with it". When they then discover that they had not won, a depression sets in especially where their dollar spent had been hard to come by. The depression then leads to the cycle of anger which then leads to guilt and on and on it goes where this individual continues on again to gamble.

........Then the worst is yet while most people are guilt ridden in their life-style, if they did win they would most likely destroy themselves with the money and sometimes even lose it all. The liberal weak mind as seen everywhere in America today (2003) is that of a guilt complex full of excuses and the addictions which have overtaken them from music to food to gambling and to entertainment.

........Greed and power go hand in hand with money as it brings that false feeling of happiness which only provides a temporary feeling of security not happiness at all. It comes from how one had been conditioned as a child and in most cases in our modern socciety there is no true happiness because one must first reach the recognition and understanding of Creation and eliminate the ego needs to see that there is truly a difference. What happens in most cases people find their comfort zone and call this happiness and even the state og gambling seems to be happiness to those who do gamble even just a little only tyo make another excuse for it.

........Actually all forms of gambling add to the destructive nature of the addicted human entity. Even when an entrepreneur gambles in his business this too adds to the pressure of evil elements such as gambling itself. It is not easy to escape this very destructive habit and only conscious awareness prevents it becoming an emotional need. You can see how the corporate officials of Enron ended up destroying the company and even themselves at the end because of the heavy addiction to gambling which had led to greed and a power trip that eventually incarcerates. Books have been written about those who won lotteries and ruined their lives.

........Give a dysfunctional person power he can turn into a psychopath and if a leader of a country can end up like Adolph Hitler, Mussolini, Napoleon and even Bill Clinton, although the latter person had been controlled by a decent Constitution which he had tried many times to manipulate especially at the very end. A guilty society is unable to correct this kind of behavior because as you can see one cannot even correct one's own problems let alone that of the president one elects. Bill Clinton gambled in his own way but just got away with it because half the country identified with the same behavior pattern within their own particular comfort zone. If he had done the right thing, he would have made everyone (liberals) feel uncomfortable although here directing this only at those liberal guilty mind-sets.

Another message from Dr.Roy Foster

It's Unconscionable! But can be corrected

It is a situation which may never have a satisfactory conclusion as long as we are dealing with individuals who need anger management therapy so badly, not forgetting spiritual awakening. We also have a couple who make materialism (lack of values) more important than what is correct to do although very hypocritical because the money spent here for legal fees could very well be spent in therapy and conscious enlightenment. Their feelings control their rational mind because they are both obsessed with "how I feel" before "what is right" as the thing to do.
........When he had become violent, he could have very well listened, "to leave and get some therapy." He obviously was looking for trouble just as his wife is a trouble maker like her sister, two of a kind. A family who needs things to judge. They feed on this kind of behavior to build upon their own low self-esteem. In true essence it is their behavior which is very bizarre. Her behavior outside the courtroom was extremely "bizarre" and could have placed her in jail, and we do not wish to have our grandchildren ever seeing their parents in jail.
........They are typical of millions of people who avoid the truth, never to look at their behavior problem, never to listen to good advice and always avoid those who might expose their inadequacies and dysfunctional behavior patterns. Millions of Americans walk around this way simply avoiding the pain it takes to see the truth, even to end up in the jails, or some even become politicians within their particular comfort zone.
........Without suffering there never can be correction. My reaction to his lies in his declaration is to reply with my order on him and at the same time not permit him (which actually came through her) to have an order on me when it is a deceitful thing to do. You see, they always have got away with everything in their lives always avoiding correction and any pain. He had left home early and she had never been disciplined.
........It is now three times that she has kept our grandchild away from us and he has foolishly (unconscionably) allowed her to do so. One time it was because we were friends with her sister even for a short while. This is what one might expect from an eleven-year-old. And for her to now even be a mother. Her recent behavior also is an example of immaturity. What did anyone do to her? What had the father done but use stern discipline and to keep telling his son, "Both go to therapy."
........Our life is actually much easier now and we believe that God has a reason for everything. No need to baby sit which is what they expected of us. They always have been users. We are now hoping that they might go to therapy where one day they might be sincere enough to ask for forgiveness. Time is running out for them as they get closer to mid-life crisis. This is when physical disorders begin to arrive. As parents and grandparents who understand the facts of life, we know that the grandchildren will question their parents for their childish, corrupting and incorrect behavior sooner or later and one day go looking for the grandparents who truly love them. Children know where true love is better than the parent because they have yet to be corrupted. Children know when their parents are hypocrits and users. For this reason many demented mothers have killed their children because the are threatened by the child's innocence and awareness. (Remember that mother who killed her five little boys where also the father didn't really even care, seen everywhere but yet to happen?).
........We now see our son in deep emotional trouble lacking self-esteem because of his egotistical life-style supported by money and the wrong people, and unable to reach out for help because of his marriage. This is always self-evident through lies, deceit and self-denial in the life-style of most people today. Therefore it is the duty of loving parents to find a way to make a change before it is too late. This situation may yet not be painful enough but it is the start. Mature people handle the pain, those who need to grow-up must be confronted with pain and suffering to reach any kind of enlightenment. As we must now say "Things are meant to be under the eyes of God." and "You Always Get What You Deserve"
Another Message to the world of dysfunctionality from Dr.Roy Foster

The Absolute Truth Is Painful

Basically the story of the "so-called battery" goes like this:
........Son got kicked out of his job and came back to his father. His father is 65 years old. His son had walked into his father's business while his father had been on vacation. He took over and settled down in his office while his father had been away. He demanded too much commission at which had not been feasable for his father and then decided a few months later to leave without even telling his father. When "discovered" his father changed the locks on the doors and made some changes in the office because his son had actually taken several of his father's customers.

........While his son had been working at some other office without the knowledge of his official broker, his father, he came into the small office one day demanding a commission that had been unwarranted and then another check knowing that checks are not written just like that. He became violent and grabbed his father threatening him and knocking his father down. Two employees restrained his son.
........His son had been told to leave several times and to get some therapy. His father has been an expert in spiritual psychology for twenty years although a Doctor of Pharmacy for over 40 years and actually has written books and hundreds of pages on the Internet website: www.MentalGrowth.com. His main theme is current events versus the consequences and how to correct it. The problem is that he is far ahead of the times and so many cannot focus on the true meaning of absolute truth and selfdenial. Actually the father here has created and discovered so many things ahead of the times, even worthy of a Nobel price although the Nobels cannot even comprehend because they might also be threatened by mindopening truths especially within the framework of spirituality and Creator.
........The problem has been for many years that his son, now over 40 years old, has never listened to any advice and has come to his father so many times for help regarding his deplorable marriage and should he divorce his wife, only to keep going back to the source of the problem as criminals so often go back to the scene of the crime.. In addition, the problematic wife has now recently born two children in order to further take hold of her husband's and his son's mindset. This is a known scheme for many women who use mind control and emotional manipulation to overcome their insecurity within their particular personal inadequacies. Millions of men are incarcerated today because they cannot speak up to their wife's manipulative games and with childeen involved it becomes even more emotionally abusive even as a form of molestation similar to that received during their own childhood.. Yes what goes around comes around again in the dysfunctional family cycle unless an awakening occurs so often very painful.
........Father is unable to just sit back and watch and although he never over did the interfering into his son's marriage he needed to interject with an occasional constructive remark although often resented for doing so. Where their is chronic anger there never is a true open mind to listen to and hear the truth because it is too painful.
........Now to the battery scene. The police were called and a report was made althought his son lied about the entire incident. When people become violent they often do not remember what really happened and the illusionary mind will often take over through a very emotional state especially when it comes to attacking a father and where the guilt becomes more than overbearing but truly suppressed in order not to feel the pain. "Honor thy father" is there for a very good reason as a spiritual base for all human beings.
........The son then lied about his battery complaint and police report and with the support of his demented wife enjoying the predicament as something to feed upon only heard the lie and moved forward into furthering the lie and an uncalled for and non-deserving restraining order upon the wrong person, the father.
........Father then filed a restraining order against the son in order to retaliate for the lie and to create a situation which will make the absolute truth rebound at those who must lie in order that something painful may come of it all, and that is deep soul searching spiritual pain. Withour suffering there is no correction and change. Father believes now that a stop must be made to a sick relationship in his family, within his son's relationship that of love and hate and chronic emotional dependency. While in court for the restraining order hearing in December, his son's wife attacked his mother actually because her mother-in-law would not do what the son's wife had demanded upon the mother-in-law. Now there is a restraining order against the son's wife for her immature behavior. Only Junior High school girls act this way and even in a court is unconscionable
........The son's attorney now has asked for a settling situation, but it seems that without something painful there is never any correction which in this case is so badly needed for spoiled children, or adults who have never grown up emotionally still hiding behind materialism and denial. When will people ever learn their lesson. Not until something truly painful happens.

A Message from Dr.Roy Foster again.

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Temporary Insanity

Anger of any form is temporary insanity. It is so often an emotion which is uncontrollable because what determines it is the conditioning from the past.

........For example, accumulated anger and resentment over years and years towards a parent or even both parents during the youthful years if never reconciled through a state of forgiveness or even to recognize that the anger actually exists, leads to many later years of pain and suffering. Violent behavior is triggered by a strong need to attack something that might release the predator from his or her depression and allow for a temporary relief. The anger is hopefully temporary, and so often is directed at the wrong person or thing. One can find something to attack to avoid the reality of the source of the anger which is so often the parents who never really loved the children. If the parents had molested their children from the start whether physically or even mentally makes no difference the anger becomes suppressed because that child must believe that the parents were actually loving although they most likely were hostile and corrupting. One can be taught to believe that the relationship between the parent and the child is good when that child does not know that there is a difference or actually to fear finding out the truth. This is described as denial.

........When this temporary insanity is not cured, the anger is then transfered upon the children and the husband or wife. So often the husband must deal with it in a way that leads him to find others to victimize. Many men are in jail because of this phenomenon.

........Therapy is the only solution. Without the ability to break away from the comfort zone of materialism and empowerment from so many things around, there cannot be a solution to the anger. It must be vented in the right direction, and the behavior problem caused by the anger must be changed.

to be continued.........................

Message from Dr.Roy Foster.